Are you a high achiever, but when it comes to your career, you can’t help but get the feeling that you’d be farther along by now? In this blog post, I’m gonna show you the three reasons why you’re probably feeling this way, and the one thing that you can do to get unstuck in your 30s today.
If you’re a high achiever, and you can’t figure out why you can’t get ahead in your career in your 30s, I’m gonna give you the three reasons, why you’re feeling unstuck.
Reason number one, that you’re feeling this way is you don’t actually know, what you’re fighting for (hand smacking). Here’s the thing about high achievers. We’re really good at doing things. We’re really good at picking a goal and then demolishing it. But if you’re feeling stuck, over and over, and over again, even though you’ve demolished a bunch of goals, it’s probably because you just don’t know what you’re fighting for.
You’re picking goals that maybe you’re attracted to on some level, but deep inside, it’s not the thing that you’re meant to be doing. This brings me to my number two reason: you’re on the wrong career path. For the longest time, I thought my destiny would just be to be a SAS, a venture-backed CEO. Great career path, but something felt off. Even though I had successful companies and I had successful roles in that space, it just felt off. Then finally I looked myself in the eye and I said, “You know what, TK, “here’s what you actually want to do.” That’s when I launched “Unstoppable”. It was a big career change but I knew, that it was worth taking a risk around.
Reason number two is you’re probably on some safe career path that someone else chose for you. It isn’t true to what you really want. Which reinforces the idea that you don’t even know what you’re fighting for maybe. These are moments, where I always get people to think. All right, let’s just pause (hands clapping). How did you end up here? How did you make the choices? How did you pick your major in college? I did a video about that.
How did you actually do this job? What were your successes? What were your wins? You need to actually get conscious and proactive on how you’re making choices about your career, instead of just reacting to a decision you may have made 10 years ago. I want you to take a moment. Just for us, all of us “Unstoppable” people. I want you to comment below.
How did you pick your career path? How did you pick your college major? Did you consciously do it, cause you loved it, did you kinda do it because you were told to do it? Did you just get pushed into it? How did you pick it? I want you to comment below. Just give the one-liner, two words. Whatever it takes to explain how did you pick it, comment below. This brings me to number three.
You may not have a proactive plan. The thing is, again, as high achievers, we’re doing, doing, doing (fist thumping), crushing goals, crushing goals, crushing goals. Then you’re moving on to the next goal before we even celebrate. We have nothing to actually tether ourselves to. We don’t know. All right, I’m gonna do this, then I’m gonna do this, then I’m gonna do this. When I do those things, it’s all gonna click and boom. I’m gonna get, what I want. We don’t have that plan. Maybe, you don’t have that plan.
So, number three reason, why you’re feeling stuck in your career. Even if you had small wins or big wins, it’s cause you don’t have a plan to tether yourself to. If you don’t have a plan to tether yourself to, you’ll never really know if you’re on the right path or not. Not to say, you have to have all the answers. You may course correct along the way. But you need to have a plan. Lemme ask you a question. When is the last time you sat down and you asked yourself, all right, where do I wanna be five years from now? How about 10 years from now? 15 years from now? What am I wearing, where am I working? What does my workday look like? Do I have a family? If you don’t answer these questions, then you are being reactive to life, and you don’t have a plan.
Here’s the thing though, I’ve been there. I mean, I couldn’t talk about this at this level, or this level of passion, if I didn’t know about it. I was there. I was in the wrong job. At one point, I was in the wrong relationship. I was on the wrong career path. I was not fulfilled. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t regret any of it. Because I wouldn’t be who I am today, without the experiences, and the successful accomplishments that I have, that I’ve had. If I hadn’t gone down that path.
But then at one point I decided, I’m gonna make a change. Change is really hard. This is where I have the one thing that you can do to actually make a change in your life. The one thing that I did was, I kicked off a 45-Day Beast Mode Challenge. That moment, when I realized, I was on the wrong path. I was in the wrong job. I needed to make a change. This actually happened back in 2010. I quit my job. I quit my finance job. I finally decided to start a company. I, anyway, built that company. We raised a bunch of capital, we sold it. The rest is history, but that’s not the point of this.
The point is I did a 45-day challenge. I said, “All right, I’m gonna figure this out.” Not only am I just gonna start a company. I’m gonna figure out what I want out of my life. I actually mapped out, like here’s what I want, here’s where I want it, here’s how I’m gonna go down that path. A whole bunch of things unlocked for me.
So, to recap. These are the three reasons. Number one. You don’t know what you’re fighting for. Number two. You’re on the wrong career path. Number three. You may not have a plan. The way to get unstuck.